WHAT IS A FAMILY UNIT?
Two of our kids played soccer as small kids. They got bored and aged out of their leagues, like many do. That’s cool – we taught them teamwork skills for a few years. The important thing is Mom, Dad, and Pop-Pop went to every game. Every single game. Even when our kids rode to the game with their friends and we could have easily sat at home, cracked open a bottle of wine, and binge watched something on Netflix, we still went to every single game.
I'm author and mom Olivia Black. Welcome, and F.U. - Family Unit! We do everything in our power to support our family. Please note this is not another religious site. We respect all faiths and creeds. We believe the truth will save your family more effectively than any prayers. Remember that little thing called "free will?" Your family's future is in your hands, so our advice may be brutally honest.
Think about it this way -- what better way to build a strong family foundation than leading by example? Families need to be there for each other. When your closest friend decides she doesn’t want to be your friend any longer, or your boyfriend ghosts you, who’s going to be there for you? Hopefully, your F.U. Your family should be the rock you can always count on. The core unit of humans who are always there for you, regardless of how bad your day went, or how badly you messed up. Sadly, that doesn’t happen enough today; perhaps that’s one of the many causes that spread depression.
It all begins with the "Ps" (parents). The patriarch and matriarch -- one isn’t any more important or critical than the other. Many fams don’t have both, and that’s sad. Stronger units have a Mom and Dad, but many weaker ones do too. Even better if you’re lucky enough to have grandparents available. The bigger the better. Everyone needs backup.
Look, I know you’re tired. I’m tired. Your kids are tired. But a little fun makes the tired go away and creates memories that will last a lifetime. There are two types of parents; the plain-Jane unremarkable parents, and the fun parents everyone wants to know and remember. The latter has many more opportunities to impart wisdom upon their children. No, you don’t have to sing or do stand-up comedy. You don’t have to be a social media influencer. You don’t have to be built, good-looking, or rich. All you need is a slightly open mind, some time management skills, and the information on this website. Hey, if I can do it, you can too. Easy-peasey, right?
Well, not so fast. There are a few things you’ll need to overcome. Fortunately, it’s the same silliness that threatens all awesome F.Us.
One. Chemical imbalances are real. Depression can be triggered without external stimuli. And, in my experience, fighting your child’s sad moments is incredibly complicated, especially when they won't tell you what's wrong. Don't wait. Seek professional help if you even suspect depression has affected any of your children. Fix the underlying cause if you can. It might be bullying.
Two. Health matters. Sick kids and malnourished kids are less likely to be happy. Get your house in order as best you can. Less sugar, less gluten, less plastic, less pesticides. And filter the heck out of your drinking water. Bring back family dinners!
And, three. A fundamental problem with modern society is normalcy bias – the phenomenon that occurs when the perceived situ is assumed to be the actual norm. Powerful media conglomerates completely control almost everything we believe. I cannot recall any popular movie, television show, commercial, or rap song that lauds hard work and making ends meet in a ghetto. On television, everyone is rich, wears great clothes, and lives on an acre lot in the suburbs. I have to admit, life seems pretty easy. That’s what today’s children have learned to expect. This wasn’t my situation, and it may not be yours either. More on that here.
So, that. You’ve got some challenges to figure out. Hopefully, you already have or can easily overcome the silliness. Great. Now, it’s time to build your own happy and thriving F.U. No pressure, but remember that the ultimate success or failure of those innocent little lives is in your hands. There are no second chances. No do-overs. No mulligans. So you’d better get it right, the first time. Got it? Great. Let’s get busy.